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  • Stephanie

    Hi Robyn, My name is Stephanie. My husband and I plan to attend the WTR in Overland Park. I wrote you a personal email, I hope that you can read it if you have the time. Thank you so much! 🙂 God Bless you.

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Praying for you as you prepare for this week.

  • Ann P.

    Look at you! Congrats,to him be the glory!

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Thanks so much Ann. Going to be in KC this week for the Weekend to Remember. Hope we will have a chance to see you and Danny.

  • Marie

    Hello Robyn,

    Will you be bringing copies of both your books for purchase to the Nolensville Women’s Connection meeting this month? Look forward to hearing you speak.

  • Shelby Scott

    Hello. I am the Women’s ministry leader at Woodlawn Chapel at Fort Belvoir, VA which is outside of Washington DC. I heard you on Family Life Today talking about your SOS book and appreciate your talking about a sensitive subject in such a Gddly way. Will you be in the area in the upcoming year and/or how can we book you for a speaking engagement? My email is shelbyscott7@yahoo.com . I look forward to hearing from you and bless you for your ministry.
    Shelby Scott

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Hey Shelby,

      I come to the DC area often for women’s retreats but don’t have any scheduled there this semester or next. Please contact me here on this website and I will send my personal number for us to chat.

      Blessings,
      Robyn

  • Janet Wheeler Lajeuness

    Hello Robyn,
    I just heard you on the radio and all I can say is WOW!! You’re a great inspiration to all women. May God bless you and your BEUATIFUL family and continue to use you to encourage and inspire women all around the world.

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Thanks and blessings, Janet!

  • ailovemealways

    Robyn,
    I was changing the radio station in the car while taking my children to school and the first few words made me pause and listen! I was amazed at what I was hearing, thinking this something I am dealing with right now.
    I have been married to my husband for 22 years and I not wanting or willing to have any kind of intimacy with him. I can truly say that your radio interview convicted me!

    I am very interested in the weekend retreat.

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Hey Ailovemalways,

      Please go to the FamilyLife.com website and sign up for the Weekend to Remember conference. Once you attend, please let me know how God used it, personally, in you life.
      Blessings, sister,
      Robyn

  • Eileene

    Robyn,
    I appreciated all your comments on the radio program today and yesterday. Very encouraging! However, I’d appreciate hearing some comments regarding HUSBANDS who’ve lost interest.

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Eileene,

      I will suggest this to Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine. I will also pray for God’s redeeming love in your marital intimacy.

      Blessings,
      Robyn

  • ailovemealways

    I would like to know of you are going to be at the retreat in Yosemine this weekend?

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Not scheduled for Yosemite, but every conference is WONDERFUL!!! You can take my word on that !

  • Ruth

    Robyn, what a beautiful woman you are! I was so happy to listen to you yesterday and this morning. What you had to say was new to me. I always knew that sex in a marriage was a God-given, but to refer to it as an aspect of Jesus and His bride. Wow! That’s a beautiful thing. (Weeping in the car, after the school drop-off… thank you… 🙂 Years ago when my youngest went to elementary school and I had a little more time, i asked God what He would want me to do with that time. I expected great things. Write a book. Take time for yourself. Rest.
    But the only thing I ‘heard’ was: have more sex with your husband! That was the last thing I wanted, I was so tired!! I didn’t recognize it as God’s voice at the time, but years later I realized that God in His infinite wisdom was right. He knew how it would save my marriage! Because not long after that my husband and I went through a very, very rough time in our marriage. We both didn’t see a solution, and we both were drained, empty, angry and out-of-love. But in our sexual intimacy we were able to find that trust and a safe haven. It was not much, because 95% of the time we would hurt each other, misunderstand each other and were drawn further and further apart. But our sex, those few moments, were so blessed and sacred. That’s were I could trust him and were he took care of me, that’s also where he could see me not filled with anger and pride.
    And slowly, which God’s grace this safe haven expanded into other areas of our lives.
    And now, our marriage is restored, it’s not always easy, but it is restored and God is with us.
    Other readers, I want to encourage you! If you are hurt, angry or broken, weary or just so very tired, ask God what to do. Ask God. He might answer you in a way you’d never expect. Or want… But He, the lover of your soul, knows you so very well. He will never harm nor forsake you. His plans are to bless you. You and your marriage.

    • ailovemealways

      This story is kinda where I am in my marriage. My sex life with my husband has been so one sided I just don’t think that having more one sided sex doesn’t feel like something I want to do!

      • Ruth

        I know what you mean!! And this might sound like an easy answer, but it isn’t. It’s sometimes the hardest thing to do. Here it is; Go on your knees and ask God. Ask Him what to do. Ask for His grace, ask for His wisdom, and ask for His peace. And as Robyn said this morning, if God does something, He can do it swiftly!

        • ailovemealways

          I trust that Ruth! Thanks for the advice, I am going to do just that. I am going to get on my knees and talk talk God about it cause he is the only one that can fix this!

          • Ruth

            🙂

            • Robyn McKelvy

              AMEN!

  • ailovemealways

    This is such a conviction to me today! I know that I need some help!

  • Reese

    Is this a good book for a husband to give to his wife if she is SOS? How would I do this?

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Reese, please forgive me I am just now seeing this post. I believe this is a book for any women that is Sick of Sex because it exposes that lies that the enemy wants to keep hidden to keep us from experiencing God’s abundant intimacy in our most personal, intimate relationship on this Earth. Please just give it to her and express that you want her to have freedom in this area. Make certain that she knows that this is because whomever God sets free is free indeed and not that you want her to be free for your own motives. Many women are bound sexually because of exploits against them in their youth, etc. Your wife needs to know that the enemy of marriage would love to have her remain SOS…but God desires for her to be set free. Blessings and prayers to you.

  • Jane Kay

    I love your book, but would like to know about page 207, and drinking alcohol. Since I teach young women alcohol is not a plus for anyone’s life. It makes it hard for me to recommend SOS to our students. Jane Kay Jacksonville Fl.

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Jane Kay,

      First, forgive me that I am just now seeing this post. Second, Ray and I did have strawberry daiquiris and pina coladas when we were in Jamaica. Personally for me, I did not like to taste of alcohol so EVERY drink I have is virgin. But, if this will keep you from recommending the book, I am so sorry. Ray or I have never been DRUNK with wine…but this has nothing at all to do with this book. Please don’t throw out the baby with the bathwater. If you have a book and it has helped you or ministered to you, you make sure and tell any student you may recommend this to, that you do not condone drinking of alcohol (especially depending on the age of the student), but use the tools and walk with the kids through it. Blessings,

  • Nottoold

    Hi Robyn, I just want to let you know that I am a 66 year old christian woman who recently read your book S.O.S. This has been the best thing I have done in all these years of going through so much conflict and issues with my intimacy issues with my husband. I just have so much that I would like to say but what I want to tell you is I thank you and I thank God for your insight, scriptures, wisdom and humor. This was just what I needed. I did not want my husband to think that I did not love him completely and intimately. I have been struggling with all the things you wrote about in your book for years. It gave me the break through I needed. I am so thankful.

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Dearest Nottoold,

      Thank you so much for sending this message. I am humbled to see that God is continuing to use this book for His glory and truly it is a book for all ages. Ray and I are praising God with you and thanking Him that He uses even our brokenness to bring glory to Himself. Blessings

  • Christi Ratcliff

    Robin,

    First, thank you for writing on a subject most women do NOT want to talk about! I just finished teaching about submission (Cindy Easley, Dancing With the One You Love) at our church and am now going to teach this class. Sex was one of the key areas that most women struggle with in context to “submission”. I have 11 weeks to teach and will break the book down doing two chapters a week with a wrap up at the end. We will be journaling our answers and have open discussion in class. Do you have a bible study plan by chance? If not, can you give me any tips for focusing on the “key” questions.

    Thank you and blessings!

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Christi,
      First thank you for the courage to walk with women through all the pain that has been thrown at them in the area of sexual intimacy. I wrote the book with women getting together in mind. No, I do not have a bible study plan (but you and others are letting me know there is a need for one), but if you use the questions in the jourvotional, it will lead to open/honest discussion. Let me know if you have questions throughout the course of your study. More than happy to keep the discussion alive and Biblical. Blessings, Robyn

  • mc26.2

    Listened to you speak about your book Say It Loud on Family Life Radio…..I love your truth and honesty! Keep doing what you do, we are listening and reading! God Bless you

    • Robyn McKelvy

      mc26.2
      Thank you for the encouragement. I will continue to ‘Say it Loud!’ You do the same!
      Blessings,

  • Beth

    Just wanted to say that you and your husband did a fantastic job this weekend at the WTR conference in Grand Rapids, MI. We thoroughly enjoyed the whole weekend. And I love the fact that you have a large family! My husband and I regret that we stopped with two. We bought the societal lie that was going around in the 70s and mid 80s that two children was the max anyone should have. As Christians, we should have embraced God’s first command in all of Scripture to “be fruitful and multiply.” “Children ARE a blessing from the Lord.”
    Keep up the good work!

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Beth,
      Thanks so much for the encouragement. Continue to pray for us as we lift the Saviour up! Blessings,
      Robyn

  • Mikayla

    Robyn….are you there? Is this site still active?!

    • Robyn McKelvy

      Yes, it is Mikayla. I need to take time and update it. Thanks for asking.

  • Amanda

    I just wanted to let you know that I was deeply touched by your talk at a Weekend to Remember in Cedar Rapids a few months ago. You are such an uplifting person and are so encouraging to others. Christ shines through you and your heart for loving others. I am encouraged by your positive attitude and thankful spirit to find joy in every day life. Thank you for being you 🙂